How do I know if you are the right therapist for me? Finding a therapist can be an exhausting task. Lots of times it causes people to stop going in because they seem to have no bond with any counsellor they find. Try giving any counsellor 5 sessions. The reason I say 5 is because the first few sessions are mostly about learning to trust each other. Remember, you are talking about all your innermost feelings and you have to learn to trust someone first. Also, sometimes, we go through a stage called "therapy sabotage". It's our bodies and brains wanting to stay unhealthy because becoming healthy might be scary and daunting. So we make excuses not to go. Sometimes these excuses can take the form of "I don't like my counsellor". So just to be sure that it isn't your brain playing tricks on you, try out a counsellor for 5 sessions. IF after that you feel there is still not a connection then I would suggest going to someone else.